Thursday, September 21, 2017

JUST A MINUTE

THE ONLY THING WE HAVE TO FEAR IS ………….

Once upon a time our children could walk to school on their own from as young as 8 or 9 years of age. My sister and I walked to school together from the age of seven and never feared anything except stepping on a crack or anyone bar the old lady on a patio in her rocking chair who yelled at us every time we passed. Only when we were older did we understand about the combination of Stroke and Alzheimers, or the real ‘Crack’.
It is apparent that no longer do parents dare let their kids walk to Primary School. Oh! Lordy lordy it’s all about ‘Stranger Danger’.
It is we adults who will tell them not to talk to strangers and then shove them onto the lap of some old bearded guy in a red suit. Now that’s what you call a mixed message. We, as a society, have taught them to fear everyone and everything from red-headed people to peanuts.
All of the information available to us would suggest that ‘Strangers’ are the last thing we should fear. Statistically children are just as safe today as they were a century ago. Even though the relatives of Fagin still exist we need not fear them. These days they are in charge of our Juvenile Institutions and no longer steal hankerchiefs.
No. The real fears we should have for our children today are the adults who responsibility is to protect them.
At home or at school, at a friends house or even at Sunday School children are more likely to be assaulted than travelling between these different places.
As a person who for many years worked in the same environs as kids who not only walked the streets but lived on the streets and traded themselves on the streets I feel I am well versed in saying that except in a few exceptional cases some children who have chosen to leave home are sometimes many times more safe on the street than in the care of any so-called responsible adult.
Children on the streets have in the main been abused at home, or at school, or in the hands of carers, under the control of government agencies or even under lock and key.
It is an ignored fact that a vast majority of people in jail today have at some stage in their life been cared for by the professionals of the State.
Every time someone says that children are not safe on the streets of our villages, towns or cities I am staggered by how naïve they are. Naïvity might be a bit harsh, maybe it’s the fact that we couldn’t give a stuff about it and just believe whatever diatribe the shock-jocks want to feed us. We should teach our kids to fear politicians and commercial television before we fear strangers.
We should really fear the tendency for society to fix everything with medication or allow our children to ever be ‘helped’ by a ‘professional’.
Many Teachers are professionals but do we really respect them as we used to? Fifty years ago we were complaining about the poor standards in schools and the quality of their education – have you read the papers lately?
Teachers have one of the strongest Unions in the country and they know it. Our education system has been hijacked by the Teachers for the Teachers and I don’t think we realize it. Why would Teachers fear being ‘tested’.
There are many Doctors who profess to be professionals but rely more on the pitch of medication salesmen than on their own moral values. I don’t know the exact data but I believe that up to a quarter of children in Primary School are on some form of medication anywhere between Ritalin and  and Remeron. The only stool softener I used as a kid was a cushion.
Some people even fear the Police. The law can be harsh, unkind and uncaring. The law is blind so they say. So is commonsense I say.
Worry about the fears imposed by society before you worry about the fears posed by people.

Saturday, September 9, 2017

FAMILY COUNSELLOR IMPRESSED


As he looked around the room and saw about thirty odd adolescents playing, arguing and fighting the Family Counsellor told us that we seem to have some really well-balanced young people using our youth centre. Here we were standing in the middle of a melle in an Inner-Sydney Youth Centre, where the Police often asked to take the kids away on a camp somewhere so that for at least one week-end there would be a pause in the Redfern crime rate.

We honestly though that this North Shore professional Counsellor was well and truly off his rocker, these kids, our kids, ‘normal and well balanced?’

We looked at the kid that stole cars and then posted a notice that if he found it them would happily accept a reward of $50, then at a girl whose mouth when she was in a good mood was just foul-mouthed but if she was in a bad mood would tell a dozen things that your brother or sister could do with a broomstick besides sweep the floor.

The girl who was pregnant with her fourth child at seventeen because as she put it herself “its the only thing I’m fucking good at”

These ‘things’ we worked with were being described as well-balanced?

We let the matter drop until the centre was closed for the night and then asked for a clear explanation for such an astonishing statement. We knew the guy had extraordinary success rates with troubled young people still with their families, as were most of ours, so we were keen to learn how he arrived at such a position.

Once must mention at this stage that this occurred prior to Smartphones, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter and all that other technical shit but the situation has changed little for the child even now. The situation might have changed but the facts remain the same. Unless kids face conflict directly in the eye, face-to-face nothing will improve for them.

“Up on the North Shore” he said, “ we have middle to upper class families, living in detached houses, with all the toys a kid would need to amuse themselves and supportive parents. So we have a situation where a child feeling threatened can just go tell Mum and Dad to do something about the bullying or simply retreat to their backyard until the storm blows over and then return to the street and rejoin their previously estranged friends. All is well until conflict arises again and the process starts again.

Here in Redfern and Waterloo you have young people who live in high-rise government housing, a high adolescent crime rate, all of the main phobia's, the majority coming from poor and socially isolated single parents who don’t have a backyard, or even a front yard for that matter, to where a kid can retreat for safety.

The result is that when conflict arises the child has no fallback position, they either face up to the challenge diplomatically or get a fistful of fives to the face.

So, your kids have to learn tact, diplomacy, co-operation and teamwork the hard way. When confronted with a problem they can either talk their way out of it or fight their way out its up to each individual. Rich kids don’t face this same problem and so conflict is something they never learn to handle. What results is an eruption of violence when faced with conflict.

Oddly enough its conflict with helicopter parents and other children, even in the kindergarten sandpit that allows them to develop into balanced young people able to handle the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune”

He was of course, in my opinion quite right. It is for this reason that I believe today's young people who don’t communicate directly with each other, who can friend and unfriend each other electronically, the toys in the backyard, that has created the perceived increases in violence among young people. It’s always been there, disrespectful teenagers, wild parties and pub brawls (been there, done that) right back to the middle-ages. However, until now children growing up have not had to come face-on with conflict as often in the past and so, when confronted in the street do not have the skills to negotiate their way out of trouble and violence arises from frustration.

I'm going to go out on a limb here by suggesting that maybe 'some' bullying is a good thing it is part of out development as humans.


Tuesday, September 5, 2017

CRIME DOES NOT PRAY

When one openly professes to be a Christian they are expected to live a full Christian life, much the same as Jews and Muslims. I’m none of these but like nearly all athiests have a spiritual side too but one that doesn’t include a Diety. We celebrate Christmas, Easter (including a meatless Good Friday) and even Hanukkah. If it’s a celebration for good then we’ll be in it.

What gets me is fake Christians who act insincerely, even the most powerful will do un-Christian things, and other real believers let them get away with it just because they worship hold the same belief.

They worship money not God
They make themselves into idols
Take the Lords name in vain
Don’t observe the Sabbath let alone attend religious services
Certainly have no honour for their Father or Mother or they might not have dragged the family name through the mud
Aid and abet the act of murder or even commit it themselves.
Commit adultery including those divorced three times.
Steal not just money but dignity, respect and honours

Christians are not what they say they are, Christians do not act the way their God intended.
Is there a message here for Evangelicals (those who believe they are the actual children of God) that support an increasing erratic Trump?

If there is a God he is crying.

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