DOMESTIC BLISS-TERS?

Like father like son and like mother like daughter rings all too true. Our natural instinct is to follow what we have seen before, this is why boys who beat up on women have usually seen other men beat up on women, predominantly common law partners and step-parents, who incidentally are also the predominant kiddy-fiddlers. The latest fashionable bru-ha-ha centers around domestic violence but as usual it is a knee jerk reaction to an age old problem. It seems that the media is always looking for a new hobby horse to blow out of proportion. Unfortunately due to a whole host of circumstances from financial to emotional it's hard for men and women to escape from domestic violence within the family home.

Rather than continue to publicise the problem the media should be putting pressure on authorities  to make ways for victims to remove themselves from the situation and be counselled or at least have perpetrators face harsh non-custodial sentences. 

Naturally the experts blame everything else for the problem and not genetic pre-disposition and parental example. Alcohol and drugs are always at the center of blame, but they are not, they are the triggers, they set off the brains desire to knock seven days out of anyone who argues with them. Plates hurl themselves against walls, fists accidentally hit faces and knives sometimes carve up more than a slice of bread its all a very spiritual experience, the spirit of evil within some of us.

But violence doesn’t always stay at home, bullying doesn’t always stay in the playground. It spills out into the general community and if we see it and do nothing we may as well just go over their and join in. I’m not advocating violence, in reality I have great difficulty even setting traps for invading mice, in probability don’t even carry the violence gene and I’m not alone. So if you see violence, even verbal don’t stand back and think this is none of my business, let them know you know and you want their vile behavior to stop.

Another argument may suggest that Social Media and the resultant lack of face-to-face contact, hence distance and untouchability, prevents face-to-face positive socialising but that is more about the definiton of bullying not why it exists.