Are
we growing into a society that has changed from pointing bones to
just pointing fingers?
The
parents are to blame?
It
was the Police and Justice system?
It
all starts with our Social Security system?
Is
it alienation, racism, bad jeans or just plain fucking boredom?
All
of us have at some stage heard someone blame somebody else. But is it
becoming endemic in our society? Is anybody accepting that they
are the problem and then setting out to do something about it?
When
you sit in Court the first defence is the adoption of the early onset
of Alzheimer’s then move through the various social ills until the
crime has been mitigated enough for innocence to be found or a
reduction in possible sentence has been achieved.
Are
these tactics being adopted by the general community? Have we seen so
many Courtroom Drama’s on TV that we have begun to use the same
tactics in our everyday life, regardless of the outcome, to protect
our own backsides?
Be
it called pride, ego, arrogance, self-importance or survival of the
fittest if we are caught out cheating, stealing or failing to carry
out our directed duties every time, and I include myself, will
quickly jump to their own defence.
As
‘monkey see monkey do’ the chances that we are passing on
these protective skills to our children and young people is extremely
high. Children divorcing parents?
How
often will I say ‘now be honest I can’t help you unless you
are’ and then hear them, in some cases, come out with the most
fanciful twaddle I have ever heard. One or two clients will come up
with a series of events that would be better used in ‘animated
cartoons’.
We
know they are not always telling the truth but we should also realise
that they are using the same protective skills as we adults have
unwittingly taught them. Fortunately for us older and wiser workers
we have managed to learn how to screen out the plausible impossible
and can arrive at a situation somewhere between what the client wants
and what we think they need ‘in their best interest’.
Feedback,
that awful word which makes me think of physical regurgitation,
between worker and client determines how best these decisions can be
met. But we must be very careful to ensure that firstly, the client
has the knowledge and ability to carry out the task, secondly that
the end result will be a further advancement of the young person
towards both personal and financial independence and finally ‘Is it
legal?’
‘They
don’t understand me’ is a common phrase of mine when trying
to explain why very few people know what my job really is. 'That
makes two of us, they don't understand me either'. That’s
because the welfare sector is so caught up in models that something
that doesn’t fit the mould. Then just when we begin to think we
know what that model is it mutates into something else. Why? Because
that’s where the gap is, how the care services see its role and
what the client wants can be poles apart in interpretation.
So
is the case with many of the young people who come to me for
assistance, some agencies or individual workers have an idea of what
they have to achieve and set out to bend and twist young people until
they fit their mould. It took me two years in the job before I got
the gut feeling of what my role was - do it the way the client sees
best without all the contortions.
My
job as a stand alone should have really been called WIP ‘The
What-if Project’ for that is how I have developed this service to
work with other agencies and our clients. Its not a case of what my
service wants for them but what they want from my service.
The
result of this has been a constant process of evolution to fit the
project to the need rather than the other way around. My unique role
was deliberately designed to be an enigmatic service so that the most
disadvantaged of young people could meet their needs without having
to fit to any particular model. My services have to become like its
clients, unconditional access, flexible, twisting and turning
according to the need that has to be met.
The
end result should be that young people having used my service should
never be able to declare when things go wrong, that ‘the devil made
me do it’…………………….. Anyone for litigation?